Over time, sexual life becomes dull and monotonous. Foreplay before intimacy helps to add new colors to it. For the most part it is important for women, because they need to be well aroused to achieve a vivid orgasm. For men foreplay helps to revive the former passion, begin to feel tender feelings for the partner.

Why is foreplay necessary, in terms of physiology?

The sexual act is divided into stages:

• Plateau – immediate arousal;
• coitus;
• Final caresses.

For men it is enough to excite them for 2-3 minutes, and for women it is necessary not less than 15 minutes.

Sociological studies have found that the average duration of intercourse for couples ranges from 4 to 6 minutes. Of these, only 1.5 minutes takes foreplay, which is not enough for women.

Physiological changes to prepare for sex:

• the hormone dopamine is released into the bloodstream – it helps prepare psychologically for coitus;
• the woman begins to produce lubricant, blood rushes to the clitoris, making it bigger;
• the vagina narrows – this heightens the sensitivity of both partners;
• the man’s scrotum shrinks – his testicles rise higher and he has an erection;
• the nipples swell and harden.

Many people mistakenly think that introductory caresses are needed only for girls. This is not true. For men, foreplay is just as much fun. They solve the problem of premature ejaculation, make the relationship with a partner more trusting.

Foreplay Ideas for Girls

Secretly, men dream of foreplay, but you should not limit your fantasy to oral sex. If you excite him properly, the quality of intimacy will greatly increase. There are several ways to bring your partner to ecstasy:

• Massage. The easiest way is to stretch the muscles of the man with your hands. Simple strokes on the back can relieve stress, relax and inspire a positive mood. After such a massage your partner will feel better, will be able to respond to caresses. Do not confine yourself to the back. Diversify the massage by adding aromatic oils with a stimulating effect, working the muscles of the chest and buttocks. Undress and smear your body with massage oil – rub it on his back and stomach.
• Oral caresses. If you haven’t included them in your intercourse routine, it’s time to do it now. Blow job – the most common male fantasy, you should not deny it to your boyfriend. When you satisfy your partner orally, watch his reaction to the techniques used. Do not limit yourself to one-size-fits-all scenarios, use a gentle technique in combination with a harder one, alternating constantly. Do not forget to pay attention to the scrotum and the area around the penis. Their stimulation with your hands, kisses and tongue can turn a man on as much as a deep blow job. Guys themselves don’t know about this.
• Binding. BDSM culture is attracting more and more interest because it breaks the stereotype of the male hunter. Even shy women should try on the leading role in bed, it helps to loosen up. Tie a man’s hands or fasten them to the headboard, let him relax and enjoy your actions. This way he will feel like an amputee in bed or your prey. This is a new and unexplored role for most guys. You can choose your own scenario – gently caress his body, bringing him to a frenzy, or add “spice” to the caresses. If you decide to play Mistress, you must determine in advance the boundary that can not be crossed.

This guide will help a woman bring new colors to her sex life. Additionally, you can choose lingerie, makeup and other accessories that will allow your partner to look at you with new eyes.

Ideas for Men

A man’s skill does not depend on the size of his penis, but on the skills he uses in sex or during foreplay. If the caresses before sex take enough time, your partner will reach orgasm during each contact. She will have no complaints about your skills. To be praised as a great lover, you should use techniques:

1. Kissing. One sure way to get your partner, set her on a sexual wave – long and passionate kisses. Note that in most Hollywood movies it is after they heroes find themselves in the same bed. Do not abandon them in real life. Kiss the girl hotly, passionately, impulsively, long, affectionately and demandingly. As soon as she relaxes, shift your attention from her lips to her ears, neck, breasts and stomach. Do not try to move as quickly as possible to the genitals, increase the heat of passion slowly.
2. Massage. Not only men like touching the body, women quickly relax under the strong hands of their chosen one. To adjust your partner for sex, apply scented massage oil on her skin and begin manipulation with the shoulders and back. Change the intensity of the impact. When there are no muscle clamps, ask her to turn over on her back. Slowly massage her breasts, touch her abdomen and thighs. Take your time – the session should last at least 10 minutes. You should light candles and put music in the room, then the girl will relax faster.
3. Changing techniques. Women’s skin is thinner and more delicate, so you should touch it more often during caressing. Pay special attention to the nipples, they can be caressed in different ways: first gently kissing, then nibbling. If you stimulate her breasts with your hands, start by stroking the nipples, and then gently pinch them. After causing mild pain, return to gentle movements. The correctness of your actions will confirm the goosebumps on the skin. The combination of roughness and tenderness can also be used during stimulation of the buttocks: replace their stroking with light strokes.
4. Take your time. You do remember that a woman needs up to 15 minutes to achieve maximum arousal, right? That’s why the main idea of quality foreplay will be the absence of haste. Play with a girl, constantly changing the heat of passion, using different techniques. You should wait for the moment when the partner literally starts asking to start the act itself.

It is important for the partners to remember that sex is not a one-way game. Both must participate in foreplay, even in a situation where one is tied up.

What can you do together?

If you only receive or give pleasure from foreplay, the problems in the sexual sphere in your couple will not go anywhere, but will only worsen. Everyone is responsible in their own way for their partner’s pleasure. If you’re tired of bringing novelty to the relationship alone, offer to implement one of the ideas together:

1. Shower. Take it together, washing away the remnants of a hard day. Rub each other gently with a sponge, paying particular attention to the chest and buttocks. After that you can start other kinds of foreplay, sitting on the bed. Kiss and cuddle right under the shower, and then move on to mutual oral caresses.
2. Role-playing. Do not think that it is ridiculous and silly. Take your time, play the selected scenario from beginning to end. Modest woman in the role of a sexy nurse can overcome stiffness, to do what you’ve been waiting for her to do. Do not try to move quickly to the most important thing – you need role-playing to make you seem like a stranger to the man you love. Throw away complexes and get used to the role, so that the experience will be a positive one.
3. Watching porn together. If you are embarrassed to show that you are interested in movies of this genre, you can start with a light erotic movie that you turn on with a glass of wine. In the process, it will be easy to move into a conversation about intimate topics. It’s a good time to share your innermost desires and get excited. When the degree of desire is off-scale, begin to repeat the actions of actors. At the same time note for yourself new positions and techniques.
4. 69 position. This is an alternative variant of sex or one of the ways of preliminary caressing. If you, before taking it, pay enough attention to the stimulation of erogenous zones, achieving orgasm will be real. Then don’t limit yourself to oral caresses. After a short break, you can repeat the act in the classic way. On such an evening you prove to each other, that your sexual relationship is not outdated. They can still be taken to the next level. This idea is good when you have nowhere to hurry and you are set up for a long stay in bed. Don’t resort to it if you’re tired after work or can’t spend much time on sex. The 69 pose with repeated intercourse after it will help with the problem of premature ejaculation in a man. The second intercourse will be longer and more enjoyable for the woman.
5. Joint masturbation. Guys in long-term relationships often engage in self-satisfaction. It helps them relieve tension when there is no opportunity to have a full sexual act. Women are less likely to satisfy themselves, usually when they have been abstinent for a long time. More often they use dildos or other toys from a sex shop. Using mutual masturbation during foreplay is simple: sit opposite each other and start satisfying yourself in your favorite technique. The main rule that will add spice to the situation – the partners in this game can not touch each other. But you can find out what technique prefers your partner and aroused, watching him.

Do not necessarily engage in preliminary caressing on the script described. You can change the rules of the game, based on the preferences of your couple. Watch your partner’s reaction to choose the right tactics.

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